Female Sexual Problems

Don’t suffer in silence with vaginimus, anorgasmia or any other female related sexual dysfunction. As an experienced and compassionate therapist, trained in all aspects of female sexual health, I can help you discover the causes and successfully deal with them.



For many the anticipation of sex can be heady and intoxicating, but for a small minority of women the body seems to refuse what the mind most desires. The thought of having sex brings on a kind of panic attack, the effects of which include an acute physical reaction in the vagina, known as vaginismus. In vaginismus, the muscles of the pelvic floor around the vagina tighten in anticipation of intercourse, to the extent that it does not allow any penetration. This tightening is completely involuntary and even where penetration is possible, it can cause great discomfort and pain. Vaginismus is a psychological problem where the woman does not have a relationship with her vagina. It is a distressing condition and can have a serious impact on you and your partner, preventing healthy sexual relationships, and even stopping you starting a family. With the help and guidance of an experienced therapist, however, it is possible to overcome these problems.

shutterstock_9832933  ANORGASMIA

This is a sexual dysfunction that can have similar symptoms to vaginismus, but differs in that penetration is usually possible and not at the heart of the problem. There are a number of causes of this condition, one of which includes the woman disliking or being dissatisfied with the cosmetics or appearance of her vagina and becoming quite anxious at the thought of intimacy and having sexual intercourse. Also known as Coughlan’s syndrome, anorgasmia means women are often unable to achieve orgasm despite adequate stimulation and being in a relationship with a trusted, caring and sensitive partner. Some women with this condition may never have experienced orgasm. Over time, anorgasmia often leads to intense sexual frustration and can have a detrimental effect on relationships. Anorgasmia has multiply causes but 90% of the causes are psychological. An experienced therapist can help women with this condition to enjoy their sex life again, free of fear or anxiety.



An orgasm is the most intense and pleasurable experience you can have. You breathe more deeply. Your heart rate doubles to around 175 beats per minute. The vagina engorges and 116 muscles pulse and contract before exploding to release waves of endorphin fuel pleasure which sweep the body.

The average woman has about 2 or 3 of these orgasms a week, but some women can experience far more. Reports of up to a 100 unrelenting orgasm a day without any sexual stimuli is not uncommon. For these women the orgasms are intrusive and unwanted because the body is constantly in a state of sexual arousal. Many complain of feeling severe and enduring pain in the genital area and breasts. These women live with tremendous anxiety because the sexual organs are demanding attention no matter how unsexy the woman feels. Often there is immense tension and little if any release. This condition is often described as a never-ending nightmare by women and extremely difficult to resist. Men have a similar condition, which is referred to as priapism. Persistent sexual arousal can have emotional and psychological consequences. It can impact on intimate relationships; work and social functioning and can create feelings such as: shame, embarrassment, helplessness, anxiety and depression.

No definite causes have been established for persistent sexual arousal. However, hormonal and neurological research as well as research into abnormal blood flow is leading to more effective treatment options.

shutterstock_119600443 DYSPAREUNIA

This condition is characterised by pain experienced during or after sexual intercourse, although some women also experience pain or discomfort before intercourse. There are many causes, some of which include illness, infection, a physical condition, and also an underlying psychological problem. Women typically complain of recurrent or persistent genital pain during or after sexual intercourse. The pain is usually experienced in the vagina as well as deeper in the pelvic area and, as well as the physical discomfort, women often experience feelings of isolation or embarrassment. Some women may choose simply to live with the condition, despite it compromising their sexual enjoyment or fulfillment, and the possible threat it poses to their relationship. With the right professional help, however, dyspareunia can be treated.


The idea that you do not have any kind of sexual interest or arousal is considered by ICD-10 to be a disorder and is a very common in both male and female, but is more common in females. According to the Journal of American Medical Association about 43% of women compared to 31% of men complain of low sex drive. Low sex drive can have many causes such as emotional and psychological factors (lack of sleep, stress, anxiety, depression fatigue and even your feelings towards your partner) as well as biological health problems such as diabetes and heart disease. All these factors can interfere with your response to sex. Some prescription medications are also known to cause low sex drive in women. And there are also the physiological cascades of chemicals that cause low sex drive, as the woman gets older.

shutterstock_217807315SEXUAL AVERSION DISORDER

Sexual aversion disorder is psychological in origin and is similar to hypoactive sexual disorder but has a much stronger dislike of, and active avoidance of sexual activity than hypoactive sexual desire disorder. The main differences are that it is characterized by fear, disgust, revulsion, or similar emotions when engaging in sexual contact with a partner and is not only to do with a lack of sexual desire. For example, you may have an aversion to your partner’s touch, smell, body image and avoid sexual behaviour all together because you hold the belief that sex is unhygienic.

shutterstock_96038240POST-COITAL NAUSEA

Is having sex making you sick? Well, you are not alone. Millions of people worldwide suffer from post-coital nausea. This disorder can trigger a range of sicknesses, including vomiting, headaches, post-sex depression, and feelings of anxiety, sadness, regret, and irritability. Some women may also experience memory loss, or even amnesia. A possible cause of the condition is due to a hormonal shift in your body after you have achieved orgasm. You may also be one of a small minority of women who have a semen allergy and suffer from flu like symptoms after sexual intercourse. Other conditions triggered by sex may include urinary tract infection, yeast infection, and bacterial vaginosis.

shutterstock_1101908 HYPER ORGASMIA

This condition is characterised by being easily aroused (which can be achieved by the simplest of touch, or even by just by thinking yourself into it with no physical stimulation at all). This then leads to an inordinately high number of orgasm, once orgasm has been reached, arousal subsides. Many women argue that this is not a problem at all, and would be incline not to seek help. However, there are a few women who are likely to feel ashamed of being hyper orgasmic probably due to their upbringing and would present for therapy.  In some cases, the condition can lead to anorgasmia if met with criticism from an insensitive and prudish partner.




If you are living with any of the above conditions you don’t have to suffer in silence any more. Help is at hand. With the support and guidance of an experienced and compassionate therapist, you can start to reclaim your sex life and enjoy your relationship again. To find out more about the kind of help that is available, please get in touch today, I will respond promptly and in the strictest confidence.